Resolve Arguments with a Cat Fight

Make a playful pact before an argument occurs.

It’s important to talk with your partner about strategies that you can use during a conflict before they occur.

How do you incorporate play and laughter into your relationship during a tense moment?

It can be easier than you might imagine. Just as our bodies require a variety of foods and nutrients to stay healthy and balanced, each individual conflict may require a different strategy to solve it. Sometimes you may need to take space from your partner, and revisit the conflict at a future time. Other times you may need to sage the house, open all the windows and play calming music to shift the energy in your space. You may need to journal or even schedule an appointment with a couple’s therapist. Another strategy that can be incredibly fun and effective is using play and laughter.

Role-play is a simple strategy to end arguments incorporating play and laughter.

When triggered, emotionally charged words can break trust and leave a lasting negative impact. What if there was a way to express your emotions without words? One way to do that is through role play. There are many ways to use role play to diffuse an argument. Remember to discuss this with your partner prior to using the strategy to ensure you are both on the same page.

Here’s a few ideas to implement this playful strategy.

Cat Fight, Anyone?

Decide on a animal persona that you and your partner can take on during an argument such as a cat. When tension arises and an argument begins to brew, use your cat claws and hissing sounds, and have a pretend cat fight. You may want to practice prior to an argument. Discuss avoiding physical contact as well so that the cat scratches don’t turn violent, especially if you are angry.

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Jennifer Parr

Jennifer Parr

Jenn is a freelance writer specializing in personal development working with brands and clients in coaching, spirituality, and alternative health.